20 Things Not to Say to People With Chronic Pain


You’re in for a treat this Saturday – this is second installment in a series that list the things (often inappropriate, always frustrating!) people say to those with chronic illnesses.  This one is focusing on chronic pain, and all those sayings that get right under our skin!

So get yourself comfy and prepare a good few minutes of ironic laughing.  Here are 20 things not to say to people who experience chronic pain.

  1. You don’t look like you’re in pain…
  2. It can’t hurt that bad.
  3. Are you sure it’s constant?  Like all the time?
  4. So you are in pain all of the time then?
  5. I get pain (insert area here), but I can cope with it just fine.
  6. I thought you were taking those tablets?  Why aren’t they working?
  7. Oh so you don’t have a reason for your pain then?
  8. You’ve been in pain for a while now, are you sure it’s not getting better?
  9. Are you sure the pain is as bad as you say it is?
  10. How are you able to go to work and function like a normal person if you’re in that much pain?  Maybe it’s not as bad as you think.
  11. I know you’re in pain, but I think you’re taking too many tablets.
  12. Have you tried (insert inappropriate comment here!)?  Because that will cure all pain.
  13. Oh I experience pain there sometimes, but I can live with it.
  14. Why do you need a hospital referral and consultant for pain?
  15. If there’s nothing really wrong why are you in pain?
  16. I think it’s just your mood – you are really down.  Are you sure you don’t have depression?
  17. Are you sure you’re not just weak and a bit lazy?
  18. I wish I could stay off work just because I’m in pain…
  19. So you rest a lot, huh?  Must be nice to do nothing…
  20. At least it’s not (insert disease here)!


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